A couple of weeks ago I noticed myself reaching for my phone.
It was 9:45am and I’d already picked it up over 20 times that day (yep, really!).
After getting annoyed myself, I decided there had to be a better appoach.
Since then, I’ve been exploring simple ways to bring more self-loving awareness to the habit, and what I found has made a huge difference.
I hope it will help you too.
Watch The Video
Watch this short video where I guide you through the technique
I started with curiosity and asked myself:
- What’s really going on here?
Then, a few days later, while exploring some of the wonderful content in my mentor Carrie-Anne Moss’ Fierce Grace Collective, I came across four, powerful questions she shared that felt deliciously supportive.
You can use them any time you find yourself reaching, consciously or unconsciously, for something to fill a void.
It could be:
- Your phone.
- Scrolling social media.
- Online shopping.
- Or something else you use to numb or soothe yourself.
In my case, it’s chocolate bars!
And it goes like this…
The HALT Method
When you notice yourself reaching for something that’s not supportive, or perpetuating a habit that doesn’t serve you; when you notice a need to numb out – from noise, stress, drama, or day to day life, HALT.
Pause and ask yourself: AM I:
If you answer yes to any of those things, then create space to nourish yourself, soothe yourself, love yourself and be kind to yourself.
Reach into your toolkit and use the practices, rituals, tools and techniques that uplift you, soothe you and support you.
HALT and be kind to yourself.
Try it and see how it feels for you.
And if you’d like any suggestions on tools or techniques to (consciously) self-soothe, let me know – I’d be happy to open up my self-care toolkit and share it with you. You can check out another one of my self-care practices here.
P.S. If you enjoyed this post, you might also like to try this self-soothing technique. It’s wonderfully supportive if you feel stressed, anxious, overwhelmed or find yourself reaching for food, your phone (or anything else) to numb or calm.